Business Obstacles: Expectations Vs. Reality

Business Obstacles: Expectations Vs. Reality

And the winner is…
I don’t know about you, but some days unexpected obstacles surround me in the most unlikely places. It frequently isn’t the obstacle that stops us, but the thinking and expectations around the event. When expectations get in the way of reality, reality wins every time. Resistance to our current reality makes us miserable and opens the door to fear and failure.

Here are some simple strategies to help you deal with obstacles and get yourself back on course.

1. Stop. Pay attention when things don’t go your way. Your environment is giving you feedback. If you’re stuck in the office, get up and move, grab some water, or close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. The idea is to change your state of mind by doing something different. Do you want to run? Maybe you need to met the obstacle head on – but then again maybe not. Stopping in your tracks long enough to size up a situation is a fabulous way to set yourself up for success.

2. Look. Are you tired, hungry, thirsty? Is there some other thing that needs more immediate attention? J. Krishnamurti, a prolific writer and speaker said “The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe without evaluation.” Check out what is really going, rather than what you insist or project should be going on.

3. Listen. Take the time to be still long enough to catch what your body, mind, and spirit are communicating to you. There is a wealth of information available to us when we are willing to look inside of ourselves for the answers A universe of untapped wisdom, strength, and intelligence is available. Develop this habit before a crisis, and you will have immediate access to your intuition.

4. Trust. Cultivate the habit of stopping, looking, and listening. Do these three things daily and you will build a strong foundation of self-trust that will guide you when things don’t go the way you’d planned. Develop self-trust, and you will find greater flexibility to respond to things as they are and not as you want them to be.

Accept or resist. The choice is ours alone. The words, “Resistance is futile” came to mind as I sat to write this article. I had to laugh at myself, as I recognized that the resistance to how my own day was unfolding was the cause of both my frustration and overwhelm. As soon as I acknowledged the resistance, the upset disappeared. What a great opportunity to surrender, let go, and let life flow once again! Again, the choice is yours. Laughter beats upset every time.

This basic concept comes right out of the martial arts. When an opponent is pushing on you (life), and you push back (expectations), the stronger person wins. Trust me, reality is always stronger than you are. When you “yield to win,” you allow the situation (life) to be what it is, and you simply respond to what is present in the moment.

Maybe the Borg in Star Trek were right…”Resistance is futile.” Imagine the unimaginable possibilities when you accept what is, relinquish your resistance, upset, and overwhelm. What you’ll be left with is pure magic and a life and business that works.